4.2.2 Extreme Parenting = Extreme Self-Care

The arrival of a gifted child can present new parents with unexpected and demanding parenting responsibilities as they navigate the often intense social, emotional, and intellectual needs of their youngster. Parents are often ill equipped for the stress that results as sensitivities and asynchrony converges. Typically being accustomed to feeling competent and capable, the uneven development of gifted children can leave even the most accomplished adult feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Family and friends may not be able to provide the support necessary in relieving the ever-increasing fatigue that comes with balancing family, work, and leisure nor even have a clear understanding of what is required to parent a gifted child. Therefore, life in gifted families can be a difficult journey without a clear roadmap.

The purpose of this session is to provide practical, low/no cost, effective, evidence-based, strategies and tools for consideration as pathways to relieve stress and bring more peace and calm into the lives of caregivers and ultimately to all of those in the family. New research supports mindfulness practices such as meditation, mind-body connecting, visualization, deep breathing, and exercise as important avenues to promote well-being (Center for Greater Good; Kabat-Zinn). Additionally, the work of Fredrickson (2001) has focused a lens on the role of positive emotions including simple expressions such as developing gratitude, optimism, and hope. Cultivating these positive emotions has the benefit of reducing stress and maintaining relaxation.

Popular practices both ancient and contemporary may provide other means to enhance focus and presence such as calligraphy, coloring, chanting, and being in nature. It is essential that adults recognize their own profile for maintaining well-being and recognize that their children may require an alternative means. Mindful practices can be more sedentary or more active such as walking a labyrinth, tai-chi, or yoga. It is important to experiment and find what brings that sense of serenity and peace.

As adults become more cognizant of their own needs and make/take time to become more calm and centered then they model this for their children and provide opportunities for their youngsters to observe and imitate. Simple deep breathing techniques, mindful walking and mindful eating (savoring) can be activities where busy families participate together.

Online and print resources will be provided in all areas so that a truly balanced lifestyle can emerge.

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